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261 - Your Playbook for Dating is Here
The Playbook Is Here
The Five Stages of Dating Success Playbook launched today. Today's episode covers the two stages we hadn't unpacked yet: active dating and mastery β the payoff for everything built so far.
Stage...
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260 - From Confidence to Strategy: Building Your Dating Toolkit
Internal self-worth work and external dating skill are different muscles. Believing you deserve a good relationship doesn't automatically teach you how to handle logistics or anxiety-inducing moments in real time β...
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259 - Why Dating Doesn't Have to Feel So Hard
Dating Confidence Is a Skill, Not a Trait
Dating and relationship success is skill-based β not a personality trait, not luck. It's a set of capacities (self-awareness, resilience, strategy, consistent action) that can...
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258 - The Real Work of Dating with a Disability
Dating requires skills β and disability adds complexity. But disability services are built around health, safety, and independence, not romantic fulfillment. Sexuality remains taboo, no structured framework exists for...
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257 - Relationships Decoded: Teaching Consent, Connection, and Self-Advocacy
We're talking with researcher Dr.Β Kathryn Pedgrift, focused on relationship and sexuality education for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD). The conversation covers Pedgrift's academic...
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256 - The Missing Piece in Dating: What Others See That You Don't
Allison, founder of Innervue (yourinnervue.com), started as a psychotherapist before moving into industrial-organizational psychology, where she's consulted for nearly three decades. She later trained as a coach and...
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255 - The 1% Shift: Rewiring Connection, Shame, and Self-Love with Mike Elliott
Mike Elliott is a relationship expert, men's coach, and founder of The Initiated Man. Though Mike doesn't have a disability, Kathy invited him to apply his expertise on intimacy, self-love, and emotional safety...
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254 - Stop Trying Every Tactic: The Dating Framework Built for You
Dating With a Disability: Why Generic Advice Doesn't Work
We break down the Five Stages of Dating Success framework, built specifically for people dating with a disability. Standard dating advice assumes everyone...
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253 - Friendship Series: From Coworkers to Chosen Family
Continuing our Friendship Series, I chat with Karen Hoffman and Julie Baum, a married couple with decades of experience in human services. The episode focuses on friendship rather than dating, exploringΒ our 30+ year...
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252 - Pride, Not Pity: Dating with Disability Pride
It's Disability Pride Month, and while this topic has been covered previously, this episode dives into how pride shows up specifically in dating.
Reframing Common Comments
Ways to respond to backhanded compliments...
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251 - "Permission to Feel Pleasure": Sexuality, Disability & Desire
Vanessa Cushing, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, talks about sexuality, disability, and dating.
Healthy Sexuality Basics
Vanessa defines healthy sexuality as centered on connection over performance, requiring...
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250 Milestone - Confidence, Connection, and Confronting Sexual Ableism
Episode 250: Celebrating 250 Episodes of Dating, Relationships, and Disability
Marking episode 250 with a look back at why this show exists and what it's covered since October 2021. Kathy founded the show to be a...
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